Below is a letter I've written to Noelle detailing (did I mention detailed) her birth story. For those of you out there who are interested enjoy - all others you may want to skip this one
Dear Noelle,
Today you turned one month old. I intend to write you letters on a regular bases as a sort of record of your life through my eyes. This one will be a bit long because I want to tell you the story of your birth:
I was sure you'd come early because Grammy and Aunt Amie had all had early deliveries with their babies. But I should have known I couldn't count on that because our pregnancy had been nothing like theirs. They were always sick but I had a wonderful pregnancy with little sickness. Well, you didn't come early, each day would pass and I would wonder - is today the day our
Momoko (I'm sure by now you know how you received this nick-name) will come? But you didn't come. Your dad and I decided that we would celebrate your due date by going out for breakfast. The morning, Saturday February 21, I woke up at 7am to the sound of my alarm. I went straight to the bathroom and felt something a little different then normal. I thought to myself "has my water broken?" But I didn't want to get my hopes up so I jumped in the shower. Again, I felt the same funny sensation and sure enough I looked down and saw some bloody show. I immediately called for your dad who came running. He confirmed what I was seeing and we agreed my water had broken! We looked on the Internet and read our books to find out everything we could about broken water. We read that it can take anywhere between 12 - 24 hours for labor to begin - so I grabbed a package of maxi-pads and sat back to wait. We decided to forgo breakfast out because the water doesn't just break once it keeps coming.
We spent a very long day at home in eager anticipation of contractions starting. We were excited for things to get going because we were so eager to meet you. But, nothing happened so we hung out at home. We took one walk but it was so cold and blustery it didn't last long. we called Grammy and Grandpa, Nana and Papa - who called the rest of the family, we let our friends know through e-mail and
facebook. Everyone was soon praying for your safe arrival.
We called our
doula a couple of times to keep her updated on how things were going (or not going as the case was). She decided to drop by our apartment around 5pm to check in on us and to see what position you were in. It was good she came to visit because after checking me she thought you might be a little posterior so she had us do these funny exercises to try to help you move. I knelt on all four while your dad stood above me rubbing a cloth back and forth over my tummy. Well after about an hour of
this contractions finally began! Our
doula went home and told us to call her when we thought we wanted her to come.
We tried to lay down to get some sleep because we knew we'd be in for some hard work but I was to uncomfortable to sleep. I ended up spending most of the evening and night rocking in the rocking chair with your dad beside me timing contractions. With each contraction that came I would hold on to his hand, close my eyes, breath deeply and it would pass. We had a beautiful vase of white roses your dad had given me for Valentines day that I kept looking at while we kept Miles Davis'
Kind of Blue playing over and over again. As the night went on your grandparents couldn't believe we hadn't gone to the hospital yet or called our doctor but we felt fine and safe with our decision knowing our doctor was fairly laid back.
We called our
doula when our contraction started averaging five minutes apart - she came over around 11:30pm. We continued laboring in basically the same position on the rocking chair. By 2am our contractions were four minutes apart which we had been told in our birthing class might be a good time to head to the hospital. I asked our
doula if she thought we should go to the hospital, she said it was up to us, that I was such a peaceful laborer that it was hard for her to gauge where I might be in my labor. She did suggest I might want to take a shower first, I decided that I'd rather get to the hospital. Your dad packed up the car while
our doula helped me through my contractions, she was great but it was during those contractions I realized how much I needed your dad. Working with your dad through labor is one of the most beautiful experiences I've ever had. We didn't need to communicate with words I new he understood my needs and he was strong and constant in his support of those needs. He was amazingly strong and steady the whole time.
We made our way to the car - it was a very cold Midwestern winter night. The car ride was not the most comfortable car ride but I was managing fine. We arrived at the hospital and made our way to labor and delivery where your dad checked us in and our
doula helped me through my contractions. It was at this time I began to sense that my contractions were slowing down. We were brought to the triage room where a nurse hooked me up to a monitor, asked us all sorts of question in not the friendliest of manners. We gave her our birth plan which she said she would have to o.k. with our Doctor even though he had already approved it. I was very uncomfortable during the whole process. She examined me, I was 4cm and 90% effaced. I was a bit disappointed that we weren't further along but our
doula was upbeat and positive saying she thought it was great we were that far.
They admitted us into our labor and delivery room - it was
obvious by now that things had slowed down. Looking back, with the help of our
doula, I seemed to have a very
sensitive labor as you'll see more of in the rest of the story.
Outside forces and changes really seemed to affect me and make things slow down, whether it was going from our home to the
hospital, or the less then friendly
nurse, or the arrival of our
doctor. I guess I had a deeper need for privacy and solitude
than I thought. Contraction never entirely stopped although their frequency slowed their duration increased from 1.5 minutes to 2 minutes or longer. I did a lot of swaying and pacing. I tried resting in bed and was able to sleep a bit during contractions. At one point I tried a shower which was great and really seemed to help things pick up for awhile. We soon had a new nurse who was much
friendlier and really cheered me up. We also had a visit from our doctor who said we were doing great and he wasn't at all concerned that my water broke 24 hours earlier. Even with these encouragements - things moved slowly.
By 10am Sunday morning we were all exhausted. Our
doula suggested that we may want to have the nurse check us but we should be prepared to think about our medical options to help labor progress because the nurse might bring these up. Our
doula left us for awhile to think through this - both your dad and I were very
disappointed thinking we may need medical intervention, we both cried from our
disappointment and our exhaustion.
Our doula came back and we decided to call in the nurse to check on how far I'd progressed. The nurse said she would check me but she would be surprised if things had progressed, fortunately she was wrong! I was 7cm and 100% effaced, something had been happening in all that slow laboring. We were all so excited - the good news seemed to jump start my labor.
Not long after the good news of my progression I started into transition. My contractions were coming one on top of the other for two hours. This was of course the most pain I had experienced during labor. I stood during this time leaning on your dad and every time a contraction would start I would step back and squeeze your dads forearms. I was finding it hard to breath
through contractions. I would say to your dad and the
doula "I can't do this," over and over again. At one point I asked the
doula "Is this normal?" Knowing logically that of course it was normal. Sooner or later I lost all modesty and took off my gown because I was getting so warm. Finally, I began to feel the urge to push - so I did by making
a very low grunting/groaning noise. I soon moved
to the toilet because it felt good to relax those muscles. Your dad sat in front of me the whole time holding on to my hand for support while I kept pushing. Eventually I was sure I felt your head coming out so, I told your dad and the
doula. The
doula told me to reach down to see if I could feel your head. Sure enough, it was there. Our
doula suggested that it might be a good time to have the nurse come in so I pulled the cord for her to come and in rushed our doctor and the nurse. We told them I felt your head coming out and our doctor said very calmly - "Well we can't deliver the baby on the toilet so why don't we have you move over to the bed where I can check you. Sure enough he saw your head and told me I could be an O.B. :) He suggested a side-lying pushing position and wouldn't you know it my contractions slowed down again and I found myself falling asleep between contractions. Soon our doctor and the nurse left and I returned to the toilet in hopes that would help get things going again - but it didn't.
Soon we found ourselves calling the nurse in to see if there was anything we could do medically to get things moving - to which she
basically said no because according to our birth plan we didn't want any medical intervention. Our doctor returned and said he didn't think any medical intervention was
necessary but maybe some guided pushing would help. So, I returned to the bed rested my legs in
stirrups and began pushing on command. Pushing was a lot of hard work and not very comfortable but it was so helpful to have someone telling me to push and to have everyone cheering me on. I soon heard someone say there's the head and it is full of hair. I was shocked that you had hair because neither your dad or I did when we were born but I was so excited that it made me want to push you out even more. Finally, your head was fully out and the doctor told me to put my hands down to pull you out but he said I would have to push one more time to get you out. I told him that I couldn't push you out and catch you at the same time - he told me I could and instructed me to get my hands down there. So, with one last push I pulled you up on top of me.
It was beautiful - you were crying, and crying so was I, and daddy, and our
doula. We had worked so hard to bring you into the world and there you were full of life crying and pink with a full head of hair. Almost immediately you latched on and began nursing - it was wonderful. Daddy cut your umbilical cord and soon my placenta was delivered. I
remember the doctor showing your dad and the
doula the placenta and I was asking to see it too. Soon, everyone left us and daddy and I had some special time with you - it was a wonderful time for our little family to bond.
Eventually, we called the nurse back in to clean and measure you. You were 7 lbs. 12oz. and 20.5 inches long and just beautiful. We spent time calling family to let them know that after 22 1/2 hours of labor you had arrived on February 22 at 4:49pm
beautiful and complete. Our lives will never be that same. We love you little Noelle and we're so glad you're here.
Love,
Mama